The New York Times calls it an “aesthetically pleasing Lunchable: an artfully arranged pile of snacks that, when consumed in high enough volume, constitutes a meal.” The Food Network calls it a “small nosh.” Others call it a “snack plate,” or an “individual charcuterie board.”

We’re talking about the newest social media trend: Girl Dinner.

It’s women our age—who have cooked for men and children for decades—who really know what we’re talking about.

This is where women show off their quickly assembled meals, which typically include some kind of fruit, a block of cheddar, sliced salami, a sleeve of fancy crackers and a dish of olives.

Girl dinner is “both chaotic and filling,” as one TikTok commenter put it, requiring none of the forethought, cooking or plating demanded by an actual meal. As another commenter observed: It’s “no preparation just vibes.”

But despite the “girl” in the phrase, we have to put down our foot and say this is not just the province of young women. In fact, we think young women—who claim it’s something they make when their menfolk aren’t around—don’t actually have much credibility in this department. It’s women our age—who have cooked for men and children for decades—who really know what we’re talking about and have reason to seek the easiest meal possible. In 2017, we wrote about this very topic: how empty nesters are newly liberated fridge foragers at dinner time. (Too bad we didn’t have TikTok back then.)

Not being a slave to the stove is a perk of age in our books.

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Where’d We Get This “Girl Dinner” Thing Anyhow?

The trend started when Olivia Maher, a showrunner’s assistant, posted a video on TikTok this spring extolling the virtues of a humble, medieval-peasant-inspired assemblage that she called “girl dinner.”

Since she posted it in May, the 15-second video has been watched more than a million times.

“I think the concept of girl dinner came to me while I was on a `hot girl walk’ with another female friend of mine,” Maher, 28, told the New York Times.

She said she and her friend had been discussing the unmatched perfection of bread and cheese as a meal unto itself, as simple as it is satisfying. “We love eating that way, and it feels like such a girl dinner because we do it when our boyfriends aren’t around and we don’t have to have what’s a ‘typical dinner’—essentially, with a protein and a veggie and a starch,” Ms. Maher said.

She decided to debut the phrase on TikTok. “This is my dinner,” Maher says in the video, flipping her phone camera to display her spread: hunks of butter and cheese, part of a baguette, some grapes and pickles, and a glass of red wine. “I call this girl dinner.” Since she posted it in May, the 15-second clip has been watched more than a million times.

What’s on Your Plate?

In our story on Empty Nest eating, writer Janet Siroto offered her favorite meal: Cheese, crackers, red seedless grapes. Glass or two—or three—of red wine NOT optional. “We take perverse delight in eating the very easiest of dinners on many weeknights,” she wrote of her and her husband.

Our founder Jeannie Ralston claims that since her divorce, she often dines at night on cut apples and slices of cheese, with a side helping of cashews and dried cranberries. “It seems to hit all the major food groups and the most work is slicing fruit and cheddar,” she says. “I feel after 29 years of marriage and raising kids, I’ve earned this break from the tyranny of the kitchen.”

There’s a historical connection between girl dinner and entrenched gender norms that dictate women prepare a hearty meal for their husbands every evening.

The quickness leaves more time for good stuff, like talking to friends, watching movies, reading.

Seema Rao, an art historian in Cleveland, sees a historical connection between girl dinner and entrenched gender norms that dictate women prepare a hearty meal for their husbands every evening.

“The idea of cooking dinner was historically women’s work in the home,” said Rao, 49, told the Times. “What I like about girl dinner is it takes away the idea that you have to cook anything: You just literally put it together. So you go from a position where the production of the food is what makes it good and makes you a valid woman, to the idea that having food is what makes you a valid woman.”

So, to the girls who are making a big hoopla over their sparse, simple dinners, we say: Enjoy it now while you can because it could be a long while before your evenings are this easy again. In other words, it could very likely get worse before it gets better.

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