When it comes to sex and women our age, we seem to fall into three distinct groups: Those of us who used to like sex up until midlife, those who never were so big on sex, and the ones who keep up their horn-dog ways.
All this is according to a new survey of 3,200 women, part of the Study of Women’s Health Across the Nation. Women with a formerly strong, now wilting libido make up 45 percent of respondents; followers of Our Lady of the Perpetual Yawn account for a quarter. The remaining quarter are the hotties, and the news media is simply agog that even 25 percent of us stay game for some action.
“Women Stay Horny No Matter How Old They Get, Sex Study Says Go Cougars!” is the headline on a piece in the laddie magazine called Mandatory. And here’s the hilarious advice readers are treated to: “If you’re striking out among women your own age, try swiping right on a more mature woman next time you’re on Tinder. Who knows? The greatest sexual experience of you life might be on the other side.”
We Told You So
We’re not surprised by the recent findings, since only last year we conducted our own survey and found that one third of NextTribers are having sex a couple times a week or more; half are having it a few times a month. Two-thirds of you said you were happy with the amount of sex you were getting or wanted more.
What was surprising to us is that the new sex study delineated who was more likely to want more or less sex. Factors included race, education, partner status, body mass index, blood pressure, menopause status, hormones, depression symptoms, perceived stress, antidepressant use, sexual orientation, sexual satisfaction, pelvic pain, vaginal dryness, and hot flashes.
According to the survey, the better educated you are the more satisfied with sex you are, and the more important sex is to you overall. From an ethnic perspective, black women are more likely to rate sex as important for the duration of midlife, whereas Chinese and Japanese women were more likely to rate sex as not important or to see drops in importance. Depression was found to correlate with low interest in sex. Duh!
Female Sexuality: Get Creative
“Studies like these provide valuable insights to healthcare providers who may otherwise dismiss a woman’s waning sexual desire as a natural part of aging,” says Dr. Stephanie Faubion, medical director of the North American Menopause Society. “Often there are other treatable reasons, such as vaginal dryness or depression, as to why a woman’s interest in sex may have decreased.”
We like that the men’s magazine Mandatory did publish this caveat for their young Casanovas: Sex changes as people age. “It’s not going to look the same at 40 as it does at 20; it’s not going to look the same at 60 as it does at 40 and it’s not going to look the same as at 80, as it did at 60,” Dr. Stephanie Faubion, director of the Mayo Clinic Center for Women’s Health, was quoted as saying.
In other words, we like our lovers to be creative and imaginative. A worthy message for men of any age.