Did you think it was just you? Buying some luscious bath salts or a new Anthropologie top you’ve been eyeing, then handing the item to your husband or child so they can wrap it up and “surprise” you with it on Mother’s Day? Or maybe even wrapping it up yourself?

It turns out you’re far from alone. A new survey, conducted by OnePoll on behalf of Mejuri, a jewelry retailer, revealed that moms are often the ones spoiling themselves for Mother’s Day; over half (54 percent) of respondents bought themselves a Mother’s Day gift. It reminds me of the scene in Otherhood, where Angela Bassett sends flowers to herself every Mother’s Day.

54 percent of respondents bought themselves a Mother’s Day gift.

I don’t actually buy my own gift for Mother’s Day, though I have to spell everything out specifically for my husband and kids. (I do, however, get my own gifts at Christmas and wrap them up to put under the tree so I won’t have the fewest presents to open, which reminds me of this SNL skit. And the poll found that even more women–65 percent–took the same tact and acted as their own Santas at the holidays.)

Recently, I’ve nixxed the gift my husband and sons most often gave me: A card that says, “Treat yourself to a massage,” but includes no gift certificate. That means when I’m ready to book a massage I have to go to the giver and ask them to reimburse me and that’s awkward. Now I make them actually give me a gift card, and mainly I did that because I was horrified that my sons might actually try that non-committal and lazy present with a girlfriend. “That’s not going to get you far,” I explained to the boys.

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What’s almost as bad as buying your own gift at Mother’s Day (or any holiday) is having to coordinate the celebration. Gather the people, coordinate times, book the restaurant. Of course, I did none of that last year but every year before that I did (and will again this coming Mother’s Day).

Right up until the pandemic year, the three of us escaped to a Bed and Breakfast somewhere and truly indulged ourselves.

About 10 years ago, my closest friends and I were grousing about this very thing in early May, and that’s when we decided yes, we would plan the Mother’s Day lunch or whatever, but then we would skip town. Right up until the pandemic year, the three of us escaped to a Bed and Breakfast somewhere and truly indulged ourselves by doing nothing, answering to nobody, making no one’s dinner, having uninterrupted time on the toilet, tucking just ourselves into bed, and waking up only when we wanted to.

The 24-hour break did wonders for our souls, and I would highly recommend it. I mean, you get a pass on Mother’s Day to ask for what you want, right? Make it easy on yourself and your gift-giving-impaired family and ask for time off with friends to be your present. Just make them give you a gift card for the B&B!

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