“Can I Be Friends With Someone Who Makes Bad Choices?”

Dear Answer Queen:

I have a friend, H, who was a stay-at-home mom for her three kids. Now those kids, like mine, have been at college or beyond for a couple of years, and while our other friends and I doubted H would go back to work (they don’t need the income), we did think she would replace some of the school parent stuff she always did—classroom mom, bake sale queen, collector of money for the sports teams—with something else charitable or at least interesting: helping the homeless, soliciting for the environment, even marching for something or getting behind a political candidate. Instead, she now spends her days shopping, getting mani/pedis, sending lavish care packages to her kids, and exercising (hot yoga five times a week, anyone?).