I’ve had April 14th circled on the calendar for some time. At 8 p.m. (central time) last Sunday, I was at my friend Kitty’s house for the first episode, with a big glass of wine on the coffee table. When those stirring cello notes of the Game of Thrones theme song began and we got our first of the new opening credit sequence—whirring cogs and flipping tiles that look like a Leonardo-da-Vinci-designed pinball game—we both began to dance. Well, before we danced we pretended we were playing the cello, the way Chuck Berry played the guitar. When all this hoopla was going on, her boyfriend walked through the living room and shook his head.
“Another reason I don’t like Game of Thrones,” he muttered before going out on the porch.
Kitty and I just laughed and carried on. My boundless enthusiasm has met with similar response before—from my kids. We watched six seasons together, but they bowed out of being my sofa mates after that. I tried not to take it personally, but it kind of was personal.
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“Just a few more weeks till Game of Thrones,” I exclaimed at dinner when the boys were home from college over Spring Break. Instead of a thumbs-up or a head nod, I got an eye roll, and Jeb’s not an eye-rolling guy. “What? Aren’t you excited?” I asked, stunned by his response. I mean, not long ago Jeb and I fell off the sofa in anguish at exactly the same time when we discovered the source of the name “Hodor.”
He merely shrugged. “Yeah, I don’t know,” he said.
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Lena Headey as Cersei Lannister. Image: Helen Sloan/HBO
“Maybe it’s like Facebook,” my husband volunteered. “Kids thought it was cool until all the parents started using it,” I don’t know where my husband gets this insight. He hates Facebook and any social media, and he laughs at Game of Thrones. But what he’s saying is that, for my sons at least, the show might be suffering from “The Geezer Touch,” which is what I call what happens to something’s coolness factor when older people embrace it. Look at “LOL,” for example. Now that everybody and their mother and grandmother use it (often without knowing what it stands for), no self-respecting Millennial would go near it.
“You’re just making such a big deal about it, Mom,” Jeb said.
That’s what happens when your kids go off to college. They come back with these outrageous ideas of their own.
So that’s it. That’s what happens when your kids go off to college. They come back with these outrageous ideas of their own. Like maybe Game of Thrones isn’t the greatest cultural event of the year. Maybe it doesn’t matter if the White Walkers take over Westeros. Maybe it doesn’t matter if Dany and Jon Snow don’t become the Power Couple of the Seven Kingdoms. These are the kinds of things that break a mother’s heart.
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The amazing Danearys Targaryen. Image: Helen Sloan/HBO
I rarely allow myself to get hooked on a TV show. I’ve actively avoided The Sopranos, Mad Men and a string of other must-see TV because I know what will happen. I watch one episode, and I might as well be mainlining heroin. I’ll be sallow-eyed and shaky till my next hit. Who can live like that?
I didn’t mean to become a Game of Thrones junkie. Friends talked about it over the first three seasons, and I completely tuned them out. I heard them whispering frantically one day as they processed what I later learned was “Red Wedding” shock. Then my oldest son Gus began reading the books and loved them. Being the kind of mother who likes to encourage any interest of her kids, I bought him a DVD set of the first season for Christmas one year.
In my defense, I did stand in front of the TV whenever there was a Playboy channel interlude.
Because I had tuned out my friends’ comments, I had no idea what was in store for my then 16 and 14-year-olds. You’d think I would have put an end to the whole business in Episode 1 when we saw Jaime and Cersei having incestuous doggy-style sex on the floor of a castle tower. In my defense to the Bad-Mom Squad out there, I did stand in front of the TV whenever there was a Playboy channel interlude, which probably just enticed them to re-watch later without me.
But there was so much backdoor sex in the first couple of seasons that I did feel the need at one point to tell my boys, “Don’t get the idea that this is the way women like sex!” My husband overheard this and said that my comment proved this was not a good show for teenage boys to be watching. His disdain for all things Game of Thrones stems from this.
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Hunk-a hunk-a Jon Snow. Image: Helen Sloan/HBO
But I didn’t put a stop to anything because the opioid effect was instantaneous. I mean, Bran out the window? How could I have turned away after that?
We watched the first three seasons on DVD, and then we were ready for Season Four in real time. Oh, the conversations we’ve had about dire wolves, smoke babies, Jon Snow’s parentage, and the Clegane Bowl. Oh, the watch-checking I have done every Sunday over the past three springs.
Lately I’ve greeted every new episode the same way. I jump up and dance to the theme song and I think this might have been the beginning of my boys’ disenchantment. They’d yell at me to sit down so I started dancing behind the sofa where they couldn’t see me.
I think the dancing might have been the beginning of my boys’ disenchantment.
After each episode, I took to the computer and read every recap, every written word of speculation on what the Sand Snakes could mean for the future of the realm. I found a podcast called baldmove.com that would dissect the plot and the prospects of each character even further. I listened to the instant-take discussion on Mondays as well as the longer, spoiler-filled one on Tuesdays. Once when my oldest son Gus saw what was on my phone—the Game of Thrones logo and the name of the podcast—he shook his head sadly. “You’re a Game of Thrones nerd, mom,” he said. When he saw me run in the house after a trip to the grocery store waving an Entertainment Weekly cover story on Jon Snow, his eyes told me that, yeah, he was ready to go back to college.
Luckily I’ve found someone to watch and goof with—until Kitty’s boyfriend kicks us out.
A version of this article was originally published in July 2017.
Amy Donovan says
I am new to GoT so my husband and I have been binge watching as fast as possible! We’re only up to Season 3, episode 4. It’s been tough not reading comments about the current season. 😉
Lulu says
I’m the friend that lured Jeannie in. A mutual friend of ours, whispered his find into my husbands ear five seasons ago… I still remember the moment when Ned lost his head- I sat there doing the slow blink and realizing no one was safe. As Geoffrey’s character was introduced, and the Stark dog was eliminated I swore it off , being a rabid animal lover. I repeatedly would declare: I am not watching this $&!@ anymore..and then slowly sidle into the room. What I love about it is there are some strong female characters, which of course D being our top dog.
What I dread is George Martin has no favorites. No one is safe. I write this on Sunday, with Jeannie close by here in Wisconsin- and no working television. Things might get a little tense around here around 6:00 as she comes to the realization that it might not happen… wish I had a dragon to keep things in order.
Jeannie Ralston says
Whaaaaa? No GOT tonight. Crap!
Cheryl Taylor says
Omg.. Trin FH
Cathryn Wood says
Right on Jeannie!! None of my family will watch it and it’s all my fault. I’ve been privvy to your dance Jeannie. I can’t listen to the theme song without picturing you busting your GOT moves!!
Sarah Marschall says
HA HA..OMG the prudes..I liked the books..
Kenna Sue Pridgin says
My kids love it. They haven’t lost interest in the show just because I love it. They just get impatient waiting for the new season to start. In a culture of “everything you want as soon as you want it,” and binge-watching, they haven’t learned the virtue of patience in waiting for next week’s episode, let alone the next season.
Jeannie Ralston says
You’re right. It is a throwback. This idea of waiting for something.
Cee Marie Shraider says
It’s not a good show to encourage children to watch. There’s alot of nudity and pornography, lewd language and extreme gore and violence.
Jeannie Ralston says
Understood. They were teens, but still my bad mom moment for sure.
Cee Marie Shraider says
Jeannie Ralston I totally get the addiction part; it’s a great show overall; I just wish there was an option to view it without the nudity/sex/violence extremes.
Jeannie Ralston says
I have to say that the seasons have gotten less and less sex-crazed as they’ve gone along. I guess the producers are listening to people like us.
Carolyn Hainaut says
I think it’s completely okay to nerd out on this show, regardless of your age. I’ve had my moments. And winter is coming. For real. Finally.
Tina Thurman says
I just read this article aloud to my college aged son as he cooked his breakfast and tidied the kitchen. He said, “Wow…did you write that article. It sounds like you.” I’ll be watching this next season on my own as my husband refuses to watch them until the books come out?!? My son works graveyard shift at the plywood plant, so he’s a no go. My younger 2 sons aren’t addicted to it as I couldn’t wait and bing watched it during my summer [I’m a teacher :-)] I feel your pain…and your excitement!!! Sunday!
Jeannie Ralston says
Oh wow Tina! Maybe we should be live texting during Sunday’s show.
Dee Bynum says
I’m anxiously awaiting the new season!!
Cheryl Ande says
Don’t worry her son is a secret watcher.
Megan Walters says
Anyone who stops watching a show only because it’s become mainstream is a shallow twat.
Jeannie Ralston says
Yeah, but they’re my sons so…sigh.
Megan Walters says
Lol.
Megan Walters says
Funny thing is, most of the people I knew watching it when it started were my own age…not teenagers or young college students. There’s no accounting for taste.
Jeannie Ralston says
And it’s not so much that it’s become mainstream, as it is that their mom is an unadulterated crazy fan.
Megan Walters says
Based on the comparisons to text-speak, I got the impression that it was now uncool to like it bc …parents…like it. But we only get to be idiot children once, so can’t fault them. Their loss.
Laura Payne says
You paint quite the picture of Sunday nights at your house! I do have you to thank for getting us hooked on the show, although not to quite the same feverish pitch. Enjoy yourself on the 16th and revel in your joy!
Jeannie Ralston says
Thank you Laura! Getting excited already.
Janice Eidus says
It is so true. My daughter scorns FB — undoubtedly because I love it.
Melissa Burnham says
I’m a grandma GOT fan who has been cursed to watch alone. My daughter refuses to watch. My young teen grand daughter wants to watch, but, well, there are some things not to be shared with young granddaughters. I am reconciled to watch alone, but, gee, it would be great to have some one with whom to share.
But by all means open your self to unadulterated binging. The Wire, Breaking Bad, Better Cail Saul, The Sopranos, Mad Men…..so many worthy. Fargo, True Detective Season One, Turn, Preacher, Six Feet Under, so many…so little time. The Young Pope, The Night Of….ok, I’ll stop,now.
Your sons loss….